Today I want to focus on relationships. Basically, how you and other members of your household are handling being quarantined together. I know in my house there are times when we need space, feel grumpy, and are having difficulty managing our emotions. Sometimes, it's difficult to convey these emotions to another person. We might lash out in anger or say things we really don't mean. Does any of this sound familiar?
Today's exercise is to create a "Grump Meter." It's a kind of mindfulness tool to help you become aware of your feelings, empower you to describe intense moments and moods, and develop some emotional regulation. You can also use it to warn others in your house that you are high on the grump meter and need space without actually using words.
You can use the Grump Meter with anyone, and anywhere you want to reduce stress, strengthen communication, prevent tantrums and escalations, resolve conflict, discover new ways to explore moods and mood changes.
Try it out. Let me know what your "Grump Meter" looks like. Encourage others in your family to create a "Grump Meter."
Have a great Tuesday!
Right now, many seniors in high school and college may feel like their path is blocked because of the pandemic. Everything feels uncertain and their journey along their path is stalled. However, a path isn't like a straight arrow. As you are on your path, you learn and grow. You face obstacles but know they are only temporary.
Today I want to talk about your life's path. Some people know exactly where they want to be, what they want to do, and the path they need to take to get there. A lot of people, myself included, took a path that meandered and had roadblocks. Much like a river, my path to where I am now had twists and turns, dams, waterfalls and sometimes a calm stretch.
When I was 25 I was accepted to my dream school to study art therapy. I was also in a very abusive relationship. To get out of this relationship, I chose to defer my acceptance to grad school, move to Colorado, and find any job I could. I ended up selling almost everything I owned, leaving behind friends and family, and completely starting my life over. Was this the path I planned? Heck no! I started working in a furniture store, living with two friends in a small house, hiking, kayaking, and camping as much as possible. I rebuilt myself and changed my path! I eliminated the obstacle in the way of my path (abusive relationship) and kept going. I grew more confident and happy, learning more about myself on this unexpected path.
So what does your path look like? Draw a past, present and future path. See the examples below for some ideas.
Make your path as detailed or simple as you want. Don't be afraid to use color to express meaningful moments. There is no right or wrong way to draw this path-it is uniquely yours.
As always, I would love to see your art if you are willing to share.